We wanted to see your faces, so we decided to have a wedding! We’re really throwing this wedding as an opportunity for our favorite people to meet each other and have a good time. And eat good food. And ya know, help us kick off our marriage like breaking a champagne bottle on a boat. Except Vic doesn’t like champagne.

Our vision for the wedding is kind of like the Phantom Tollbooth, but marital. It’ll have lots of spots for people to experience, whether it’s feeding alpacas, a maize maze, s’mores, or an introvert corner. Fun, strange, and a little nerdy, just like us.

Given the worrying rise of the Delta Variant of COVID, we're inputting a few rules to keep our favorite people safe:

We will be rapid testing everyone at the door. If you test positive twice, you will not be permitted to attend. So please, please, please test yourself before traveling in order to minimize the risk of this happening.

Two COVID rapid tests are being mailed to you with your invite, one for you and one for your plus one. Please test yourself immediately before you travel for the wedding. Because there's only a 82% accuracy rate, we would really appreciate if you and your plus one take an additional test (rapid or PCR) a few days earlier. Rapid tests can be found online at a variety of locations, including CVS and Walgreens, and PCR tests are available for free at many clinics.

Proof of vaccine is required at the door.

Masks are required for all indoor areas, and outside when under 6 feet apart from other people not within your pandemic pod.

Weddings have a ton of tradition. We’ve thought a lot about which traditions and ideas resonate with our relationship, and which don’t. TLDR: cake is in, patriarchy is out.

Vic is not the bride and Alex is not the groom
One of the parts of our relationship that we really value and work for is navigating how much our genders enter our relationship. The labels of bride or groom don’t resonate with that particular aspect of our relationship, so we won’t be using them for our wedding.

Instead of calling Vic the bride, please call her by her name. The label of bride doesn’t reflect Vic’s perception of her identity. Instead of calling Alex the groom, please call him by his name. Or “dude with man-bun.”  Please also help us out by correcting others if you hear them use the terms bride or groom.

Gender Neutrality‍
At the heart of it, we want to avoid any practices and terms that define someone based on their gender. So in practice, we won’t be dividing people into groomsmen and bridesmaids, just one big wedding party.
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Gender Affirmation‍
We’d like to give everyone the chance to define their pronouns and have those respected. This will be integrated into the RSVP and place cards, but we’d love if you could help us by making the extra effort to respect people’s pronouns and lead by example. In particular, if you see anyone misgendered, please quietly step into the conversation. It doesn’t have to be big, it can just be re-inserting the correct pronoun into the conversation.
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Ring of Fire: 5279 Black Point Drive, Saturday 9.4.21 at 8pm.
Ceremony + Reception: 3745 Woolhouse Road, Canandaigua, NY on Sunday, 9.5.21 at 3:30 pm.

Monday will be for hanging out with those of you who choose to stay on Labor Day.

Lodging
We've booked a block of hotel rooms at the Hampton Inn that you can reserve here. It's a bit far from the wedding venue, and the center of action, so we would recommend also looking into B&B's close to the farm. Please come hang out with us whenever you want; just text Vic or Alex and figure out where everyone's at!
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Shuttle
Check the schedule page for the Shuttle times. We will be picking up from the Hampton Inn and dropping off there, as well as dropping off at the main cluster of Airbnbs that people are staying at.
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We’d love to have you choose an outfit that you feel wonderful in, especially something you’d wear again.

In terms of level of fanciness, our metric is something you’d love to be photographed in but happy to spend a night in, and yes, this varies from person to person. At the heart of it, we’re happy to see you in a cotton t-shirt and shorts, or a full gown worthy of the Oscars. Most people will fall somewhere in between. Feel free always to shoot us a text if you have any questions.
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